You must remember this, kissing is more than just for lips. For both men and women, a kiss is a beautiful and intimate connection in romantic relationships.
Do you remember your first real kiss? I do. I had kissed others before, made out with others in probably a better way to put it, but this was my first kiss. The first time I felt the anticipation for hours, felt myself falling in love with her as we watched a movie in my mothers crib with the swells of the soundtrack almost too much to bear, the visceral tingle of sitting next to her, the feel of her soft hand in mine, the smell of her next to me.
I whispered, but with strength, “Can I steal a kiss?”. “You don’t have to steal it,” she said, and i held her face in my hands and her lips met mine and it was the most intimate, most sensual, most incredible kiss ever. I was seventeen. And I can still see it in my mind, and I can still feel it in my heart.
Kissing is, I believe, one of the most important displays of affection in a romantic relationship; the ultimate in closeness.
Kissing is, I believe, one of the most important displays of affection in a romantic relationship; the ultimate in closeness. You may be thinking, um, there is something else a little closer: s.ex. Se.xual intimacy, when two people are together, body, mind, and soul connected in the ultimate of ways. I think intercourse is great. When you’re in a romantic relationship, that closeness is beyond compare. It brings two people together in a way nothing else can. But it all starts with a kiss, and it’s not the same without kissing. It’s s.ex without the personal, intimate, I want to look in your eyes, I want more than your body. I want your soft cheek cupped in my hand or the feel of your unshaven chin scratchy against mine.
Kissing is not only intimate, but it is highly personal. In the movie Pretty Woman, both parties initially make an agreement, they will have se.x all week, escort everywhere, but no kissing on the mouth. It’s too personal and romantic. And when the plot shifts and they fall in love, they kiss. And when they kiss, everything changes. I’m referencing a Hollywood movie about a prostitute gone clean, but the point is, they nailed it on the kissing. It’s personal. Kissing is more personal than sex. And in this case, Hollywood has a point. I’m a little more discerning about who I sleep with. I don’t tend to have se.x with anyone I wouldn’t want to kiss, but I think you get the point.
Kissing: The Love Drug – In an article on ABCnews.go.com, psychologists reported that the First Kiss Is More Powerful Than First Sexual Encounter. In fact, up to 90% of people remember details of their first romantic kiss, a memory that is even more powerful than their first s.exual encounter.
The nerve endings in lips also activate feelings of closeness and attachment by arousing the brain’s love chemicals. One of such is Oxytocin. Oxytocin is a hormone that gives us that wonderful, weak-kneed feeling.
According to psychologist and licensed clinical social worker LeslieBeth Wish, lips are highly sensitive tissue, with nerve endings that signal reactions such as hot and cold, sharp and soft. The nerve endings in lips also activate feelings of closeness and attachment by arousing the brain’s love chemicals such as oxytocin. Oxytocin is a hormone that gives us that wonderful, weak-kneed feeling. And the chemicals that produce that feeling prompt you to want to kiss more, like a love drug. So kiss away. Casual s.ex is so common these days, it’s easy to forget how much a kiss can do. Kisses are powerful connectors of the first touch and can overwhelm you with pleasure.