My problem is, after marrying my wife, I realized that any money I give her, she just comes back to tell me it is finished, within no time. I asked several times what she used the money for, but she didn’t tell me. I even thought she was doing a project secretly.
After several secret investigations by me, I realized that she dated some guys in the past, and she took loans for them. She also gave her family’s money to one of the guys, so all these have become a burden on her and she is now paying those debts, so any money I give her, she uses to pay those debts and comes back to pressure me for more money.
After finding out what she has been using the money for, I am really angry now, because I don’t see why I should be paying debts of some guys who are walking freely and refusing to pay her.
She says she has chased those guys to get her money back, but they haven’t paid, and they are no where to be found, so any time I give her money, she secretly uses it to pay her debtors.
She told me someone was selling some land and I gave her money to pay a deposit, I went to the land owner, only to be told my wife has not given her anything. What has really hit me now is that, I recently gave her money to pay her rent(we don’t stay together)
I went to her house this weekend and the landlord told me that my wife is still owing rent, but after giving her the rent, I asked if she has paid, and she said yes.
After interrogation, it came back to the point that she used the money to pay her debts owing her family. In fact, this is not the first time she is using my money to pay debts caused by her exes.
I am very angry and confused on what to do because she keeps using my money to pay debts.
Please what should I do?