My girlfriend is abstruse! We have been together for almost four years. This is the very year we are planning to get married by God’s grace and it’s equally our worst. My girl is under pressure from society but has refused to admit she is. I am thinking twice about marriage now to be honest. I have become very callous and apathetic due to her ostensible behavior. Her actions are onerous so though she complains I have chosen to be adamant.
So, this is a lady that claims not to be under any form of pressure from society. She sounds scurrilous so I believed she was an exception but after carefully observing her, I think otherwise and I need your help.
Let me start with iPhone, she always says she is ok with android because both have same features and functions but then, she is always talking about iPhone users. I am even tired of the iPhone stories, ‘today someone’s boyfriend got her an iPhone, tomorrow someone used the savings to buy an iPhone, another day, someone got the latest iPhone blah blah blah’. I am using an android phone and so is she but I know despite all these.
Recently, it’s about going out. She is saying we don’t go out. She wants me to take her out to places so she will do whatever with the excuse that she was brought up that way. I wasn’t brought up that way though but I know going out is very necessary in a relationship/marriage. I don’t know if she complains because she thinks I am being penurious but I have an objective. I am the only person doing quite well in my family and they all look up to me. I don’t want to fail myself or anyone. She sounds economical but is not. She is the opposite of everything she says. I don’t even know how to put it to her because we will argue the moment I raise it.
The boring part of all these is the petty arguments. She is upset with everything I do or say. She sounds like I am not enough for her. She complains about everything and when I say it, she will say she won’t talk again instead of knowing how to talk. We can quarrel ten days in one week. I don’t even talk these days yet, we still quarrel. All I want is some peace. I can’t even express all I am going through but it’s eating me up. The sort of things this girl can say to me in an argument, I don’t think I can even say that to anyone ever. She is loud and very aggressive. I don’t think I can handle this nature forever. When she fails to do something, she won’t admit it. She will give a billion excuses. She can exaggerate for the wild. I don’t even care much about her anymore because she talks too much of everything.
She is a sanguine and so am I. We both hope for a brighter future. All I want is for us to think like adults sometimes. I want us on the same page. She is so obsessed about some petty things. She stresses me with them. She should just be a slay queen if she wants or be the wife material she preaches but acts otherwise. I feel she is immature but her personality makes her say things she can’t even do. I am an average nigga, I am not rich neither broke but I have what it takes to live, satisfy my basic needs and comfort.
Can you and your audience help me take the right decision because I don’t want to have any future regrets. I just want to love and be loved. She is making me a mawkish and a maverick. My love for her is rapidly declining. I am even scared to sleep at night because she claims I go to bed too early. Her too early is 10pm and it’s because we haven’t spoken much in the day.
We talk for not less than an hour daily. I don’t know what else she wants, meanwhile, she wakes up even after 8am sometimes. I wake up at 4am, do what I have to and leave for work and return after 8pm. Don’t I deserve rest? She doesn’t even understand. She is rather bitter. I am scared of my girl and I really mean it. I need your opinion sir. You guys should help me out. Thank you!