There’s this “girlfriend” of mine I’ve known for many years. She’s a student nurse and we mostly talk and chat on phone. We hardly see each other because we live in different towns. This girl will probably fit in the 1st eleven of the serious minded church girls in this country.
Sometime back, she made me understand that she fell in love with me low key but since I was in a relationship at the time, she didn’t want to ruin it and our friendship so she prayed about it and God helped her to overturn that intimate love for brotherly love so we vibe like that. She’s slim, tall and pretty but I’m not into her sexually and haven’t made any advances at her before.
Mind you, I’m a very nice and gentle guy. I know because at least almost everyone I’ve encountered including this girl has at some point in time mentioned it to me before.
I’m currently looking everywhere for job since I finished with my service last year. Of course things are not rosy with me but I don’t like asking people for help especially financially.
Now the problem is, this girl wants to make it a habit of sending me money and airtime which on anyday calls for a celebration especially in my unemployment situation but I’m not happy with it. I know she doesn’t come from a rich home just like myself. I really don’t know where she gets the money from and I don’t want her to feel entitled to me either. This morning while we were on a video call, I run out of data bundle.
She called back on normal voice call and I told her the WhatsApp call ended because I’m out of bundle. At that moment, she said I should hang up so she sends me some money. I politely rejected her offer and till now this girl is acting all hurt and mad at me. This isn’t the first time I’ve asked her to not bother sending me cash or airtime but she just doesn’t listen.
I like her because she’s a good girl and wouldn’t want to lose her friendship but I also don’t want to give her any false hope or entitlement. Am I wrong for saying no to her offers or how do I go about making her understand it from my angle without hurting her emotions?